Musings of a Millennial Mom
Uh oh. According to the latest media hoopla (most recently, a “60 Minutes” broadcast), it turns out that:
1) I am the mom of two Millennials (kids born between 1980 and 1995) and
2) The new threshold for their “adulthood” is about 26.
Yup. You read that right. 26. Thank all the “you are so special” hogwash our precious progenies were bombarded with at school and home. (The "60 Minutes" broadcast even casts blame on kindly 'ol Mister Rogers.) “You can do anything.” “You are special just because you’re you!” Turns out some of these special, special kids are hitting college and the workplace not necessarily equipped to put in the extra mile and/or deal with frustration or (heaven forbid!) a little failure.
The good thing about all this delayed adulthood? Thanks to the magic of revisionist math, 40 is the new 30, 50 the new 40, etc., etc. Now that I like!
PS: Researchers say there are about 80 million Millennials. Do you know or share DNA, last names, and/or addresses with any of 'em? If so, what’s your take on all this?
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Well, if this is true, I have 3 of them. And I just have to say- Oh my god! Their teenage years are already killing me!
Hi Misty, I hear you! As I tell moms with younger kids, buckle up and get ready for the ride!
That said, I really appreciate your viewpoint, Patrick (SEE COMMENT BELOW), and that you took the time to give us your perspective on this issue. I agree: some of this is just the old "what's the matter with kids today?" lament. And some of the misunderstanding is just that: each of the groups not getting where the other is coming from.
From my personal experience in the workplace, I can say this: I work very closely with three Millennials (Hi Dyer, Marisa and Marisa!) and I couldn't ask for more dedicated and respectful colleagues. (Plus they keep me current on trends like pre-made jello shots and the intricacies of my cell phone.) I don't know if any of them are planning to jump ship soon, but gosh, I reslly hope not! Cheers everyone, Laurie
I myself am a "millennial" (I'm 25) and I wrote about this topic in my own blog. I was pretty offended by the way this piece was reported by 60 Minutes. Not only was it very negative towards young people, but it was clearly written and produced for the baby boomer generation.
While I agreed with many of the ideas in the piece (yes, sometimes young people feel entitled to certain things without warrant) I thought most of it seemed like "old" people complaining about "young" people. What older person DOESN'T think "kids today have no respect?" I mean... isn't that a common theme throughout time?!
Also, the "you can do anything you want" philosophy our parents instilled in us gave us the self-esteem to always give it a shot instead of settling for whatever job we can find. We are not content to be clock punchers anymore.
Maybe I feel indignant because I am a millennial and think that I should always get my way... but I found the 60 Minutes piece to be totally biased and insulting.
Ooh, good point about the Boomers' own feelings of self-entitlement having a positive result, Marisa! And so diplomatically made.
And I agree with you: lots of things are beyond this generation's control. Think: apartment rents, especially here in NYC region. Cheers, Laurie
OK -- but who's gonna be around to pick up after these challenging "delayed adults" when their parents, the Baby Boomers, age out and go into Assisted Living?
You know, I never supported the draft but now I am beginning to understand how it really forced kids to grow up in a hurry...
As someone who moved out of my parents house almost exactly on my 26th birthday, I think a lot of the "delaying adulthood" comes from things that aren't necessarily in the millennials' control, like crippling student-loan debt and fewer jobs that come with benefits.
As for the too-much-self-esteem thing, didn't the "I Deserve Everything I Want" serve the Baby Boomers well? Think of the civil-rights movement!
This doesn't strike me as news. It does offend me that older generations are surprised and disappointed in my own. I am a "millennial."
I also earned 2 college degrees in the 4 years after high school, paid for it myself, and began a full-time job immediately after graduation. Six months later I had saved a down payment for my first house. I met the man who became my fiancé and after more than a year of courtship we were married. Another year later, we became parents. Today I am 26 years old.
I don't believe there is any fundamental reason this path should be exceptional. I do believe luck played a large part-- I am lucky enough to have parents who have always clearly articulated their expectations of me. If they made it clear something was unacceptable, then it simply wasn’t an option. College, work, and homeownership were all choices left to me—self-sufficiency was not.
In my own observations among millenials, boomers, and everybody else, it seems human nature is consistent: we perform to the standards expected/demanded of us.
Undoubtedly, if we were facing a draft, things would be different. But there are other effective motivations to mature besides war and military conscription—there are many proverbial “sticks and carrots.”
Maybe our parents, teachers, and leaders of society could examine what they have done to encourage/expect/demand that a generation of “children” becomes “adults”… at age 26.
After all, children don’t raise themselves, do they?
We all know that this does not represent all of those that fall into the Milllennial category. However, it is certainly evident that this generation expects to be given extravagant material things whether they deserve/earn them or not.
Marisa, I think you have "a Sense of Entitlement" confused with the rights to have "Equal Treatment & Opportunities." The Civil Rights movement wasn't about being given things just because you want it. It was/is about erasing the practice of one group being treated better because of race, religion or ethnicity.
While I think much of the positive reinforcement given to today's youth is excessive, I'll be interested to see if this next generation is less criminally-inclined. Perhaps there is a direct correlation between nurturing during childhood and moral/legal behavior in adulthood. Only time will tell - and sociologists willing to study this phenomenon.