I'm adopted, I really don't get people who lie about it.

I grew up knowing I was adopted, no big thing, there was never a dramatic "moment".

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I was adopted as an infant and it is NEVER OK TO LIE ABOUT IT. I can understand that you, as a parent, may not want to divulge all of the aspects of the adoption at an early age, but every adopted child have a right to know.

I never remember not knowing I was adopted. My mother from the time she got me called me her adopted child. I was very proud of the fact that I was adopted and never let it hold me back.

However, if I had found out at a much later age, say as a teen or as an adult I could see where it could have broken, down the bonds that my parents and I built. It would have almost seemed like a betrayal in some sense.

I also think that the birth certificates of adoptees should have some where on there to show that they are adopted. If you looked at mine it would look like my parents (adopted) conceived and gave birth to me.

I am adopted and grew up always knowing that I was adopted. I don't even remember actually being told - it was just a matter of fact in our family and I would have it no other way. There have never been any anxiety, depression or distrust issues as a result of me being adopted and I relate that to the fact that I have always known that I was adopted and to the fact that I was never treated any differently than any other family member.

I am adopted and grew up always knowing that I was adopted. I don't even remember actually being told - it was just a matter of fact in our family and I would have it no other way. There have never been any anxiety, depression or distrust issues as a result of me being adopted and I relate that to the fact that I have always known that I was adopted and to the fact that I was never treated any differently than any other family member.

I am adopted and grew up always knowing that I was adopted. I don't even remember actually being told - it was just a matter of fact in our family and I would have it no other way. There have never been any anxiety, depression or distrust issues as a result of me being adopted and I relate that to the fact that I have always known that I was adopted and to the fact that I was never treated any differently than any other family member.

I was adopted as well. My parents always told me that I was adopted; as was my sister. There was a never a time I didn't know that--it was just one of the facts of our family. We even celebrated our adoption birthdays. Doing that made it such a positive happy aspect of your life. Please don't lie to your child aobut it. I know it would have crushed me to find out later!

My husband and I adopted our son. We would never even consider lying to him about his adoption. If we did, we would portray a negative attitude about adoption and we would never want to do that. I will always be mama and my husband will always daddy, and that is just the way it is. I will also never speak ill of his biological mother. I pray for her and I thank God for her because if it was not for her, I would not have my son. What a wonderful gift.

I've adopted three girls and because they are a different race than we are, it will just be obvious. My grandmother raised my brother due to a teenage pregnancy. He knew his mom as his sister. He was told on his 18th bday. He has seperated himself from my mom and our family. He is angry that he was not told. Long story of course but he was wanted and in those days it was just not ok!

My best friend adopted her daughter and brought her home from the hospital. It has been out in the open her entire life, so there will never be that dramatic moment. I can't imagine a parent ever even thinking about lying to a child about that. To me, it would be more the parent lying to themselves. Telling them they are adopted is not telling them that they aren't loved. They were so special that they were chosen. What a gift from god.

I had a little girl when I was 15 and gave her up for adoption to a couple who agreed to an "open adoption" (meaning I could be involved in her life). When my daughter was about 5mos old, they changed their minds and moved away so that I couldn't find them. They had also agreed to tell her the truth from the beginning but I suspect they lied about that too.

I think it's just awful to raise a child in a lie. Children should always feel they can trust their parents to be honest and forthcoming and that trust should never be broken.

My husband and I met when my son was 7 months old. We were married nearly four years when my husband and I finalized the adoption. Leading up to the day of the adoption I showed my son pictures of his actual birth day. He noticed his daddy wasn't in the pictures. I told him that we had not met his daddy until seven months later. I explained that daddy wanted to be his daddy forever and he would adopt him. My son understood it to be that "he" was adopting daddy. The years passed and as he learned more about he ins and outs of babies through science, he finally asked me what "male mammal" help make him. He learned more about his biological father... but was happy with the "daddy God gave him".

My husband and I met when my son was 7 months old. We were married nearly four years when my husband and I finalized the adoption. Leading up to the day of the adoption I showed my son pictures of his actual birth day. He noticed his daddy wasn't in the pictures. I told him that we had not met his daddy until seven months later. I explained that daddy wanted to be his daddy forever and he would adopt him. My son understood it to be that "he" was adopting daddy. The years passed and as he learned more about he ins and outs of babies through science, he finally asked me what "male mammal" help make him. He learned more about his biological father... but was happy with the "daddy God gave him".

My husband and I met when my son was 7 months old. We were married nearly four years when my husband and I finalized the adoption. Leading up to the day of the adoption I showed my son pictures of his actual birth day. He noticed his daddy wasn't in the pictures. I told him that we had not met his daddy until seven months later. I explained that daddy wanted to be his daddy forever and he would adopt him. My son understood it to be that "he" was adopting daddy. The years passed and as he learned more about he ins and outs of babies through science, he finally asked me what "male mammal" help make him. He learned more about his biological father... but was happy with the "daddy God gave him".