Some choices are easy to make. For example, if you give me a choice between a cruise and a car trip, I’d pick the cruise. (OK, if you know me, you know that was an easy one!)

 

We tend to pick pleasure over pain, easy over hard, sweet over sour.

 

But when we asked people if they’d rather have a painful trip to the dentist than clean their own homes – more than a quarter opted for the dentist. Additionally, more than 1 out of 10 would choose to be chewed out by their boss than take a bite out of household cleaning.

 

That’s right – pain (both physical and verbal) won out over dust mops and dirty dishes!

 

Are you surprised? I am – and at the same time, I’m not. While no one enjoys getting their teeth drilled, if you have to get it done, you do it – and then it’s done. Even if you visit your dentist as often as you ought to, the prospect of that visit doesn’t loom every day -- like the meals that need to be cooked or the rug that needs to be vacuumed. Plus, when you go for a teeth cleaning, the dentist does all the work. All you have to do is show up. Cleaning a home wouldn’t seem like such a burden if we were lucky enough to have someone to do it for us.

 

For all those who have similar issues, for anyone who’d prefer tending to a cavity than time with a cleaning rag – our Momtourage showcase may be your salvation. At Momtourage.com, we’re looking for stories about your Momtourage – who they are and how they help. When you share them, you can enter for a chance to win additional household help in the form of either a personal chef, babysitter or professional cleaner! Three Grand Prize Winners will also receive a special dinner, prepared by a contestant from Bravo's Top Chef program, to share with the people who help them get it all done – their Momtourage members.

 

So if you hate to clean or cook – or just need a sitter so you can get away from both tasks for awhile – this is your chance!

She's back and we've got her -- in the latest episode of Laura Bennett: Case Clothed! This month, Laura Bennett (our favorite Project Runway alum) tackles that age-old question: how does one choose that perfect, do-it-all handbag? (You know, the one that should replace the shopping bag / baby bag / gym bag you've been carrying around forever).

 

It's Fashion Week here in New York, so we've got style on our minds. Laura knows how to keep it practical and make it fun. Check out The Case of the Troublesome Tote (and send Laura questions about any troublesome fashion dilemmas of your own). 

 

Sure, we love the family vacation. And in recent years, babymoons have become de rigueur. But familymoons? Conceptionmoons? Procreation vacations? Yep -- they're all there for the taking!
When you're trying to conceive, you can de-stress with a conceptionmoon. Before you give birth, enjoy those last few quiet weeks together on a babymoon. Whether you're learning to breastfeed, or adjusting to your newborn or even your newly-blended family (that's the familymoon), there's a getaway package to get things going. I'm all about daily indulgences, but when I read this piece about the many pampering possibilities out there, I couldn't decide which ones had the most appeal. 

I can't live without my weekly dose of Project Runway, so you can imagine how excited I was the day Laura Bennett came to visit the iVillage offices. She's a modern mom juggling marriage, six kids and an incredible career as a fashion designer. We just had to find out how she does it all -- and we had to share her secrets with you. So each month, Laura will apppear in Laura Bennett: Case Clothed, as a colorful crusader for all style-conscious moms. She's on hand every month (and just in time for those holiday parties) to help you turn your fashion basics into a fashion statement. Read the comic strip (illustrated by another Project Runway alum, Robert Best!) — and send your style dilemmas to Laura! This month, enjoy "The Case of the Party Primping Predicament."

When I heard about the study that suggests students who have "C" or "D" as an initial have lower GPAs than students who have "A" or "B" as an initial, well, I just had to disagree -- and send a shout-out to all of the sensational C's and divine D's out there.

What do you think -- do initials dictate destiny?

--Diane

My parents, who spend much of their active retirement researching our family genealogy, always take some time during our Thanksgiving gatherings to present their latest family-tree findings. Thanks to their travels, their curiosity about the past and their genealogy software, we leave our dinner with ancestor charts, old photos and new stories to share about the latest historical branches on the Jones/Cain family tree.

So when I heard about Freedom’s Feast, I could relate. Incorporating some history -- whether it's your family's or your country's -- into your holiday celebration, has its benefits. The elders talk about the past, the young ones absorb it all, and you're left with a rich family experience. If you need some help this year, Freedom's Feast, an activity program founded by a mom and designed for the dinner table, with fun historical facts, songs and more, will help you organize and give meaning to your gathering.

Leave a comment and let me know how you plan to celebrate -- and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Were you the kid who loved books so much that she just couldn't go to sleep without finishing "one more chapter pleeease, Mom?" Did you ever savor those last few pages of a great novel in your own little reading room -- under the covers with a flashlight? Well, it seems that fewer and fewer kids are like you were... and it's showing in the test scores.

A new study from the National Endowment for the Arts reveals that the percentage of young people who read for fun is on the decline. And so are reading test scores. But children and teenagers who read for pleasure on a daily or weekly basis score better on reading tests than infrequent readers.

Computer games, the Internet and television can take some of the blame for the decline in pleasure reading. But every mom who ever read by flashlight knows there's nothing quite like a great book. So, leave a comment and tell me: What do you do to encourage pleasure reading at home? (And don't miss James Patterson's take on a topic close to his heart!)

This week is Children's Book Week, and we can't think of a better way to celebrate than by introducing our newest iVillage blogger. Best-selling author James Patterson is here to share his passion for reading and his tips for parents who want to develop that passion in their kids. Check out The Fine Art of Pageturning -- and leave your comments for James.

And be sure to celebrate Children's Book Week at home by trying a suggestion or two from The Children's Book Council:
•At dinner, encourage each family member to describe their favorite book.
•Take a family trip to the library or bookstore, and pick out a few new books to bring home.
•Work with your child and friends to develop a play based on a scene from their favorite book. Invite everyone over to watch the production!
•Write a story based on favorite book characters. Work together as a family to develop plot ideas.
•After dinner, instead of watching TV, read aloud to each other.

Happy reading!

When Paula Radcliffe won the New York City marathon last Sunday, after training throughout her pregnancy, the issue of exercising while pregnant quickly became the topic du jour. Moms across America were amazed to learn that Radcliffe was even running the day before she went into labor!

Radcliffe is a world-record holder and a multiple-marathon winner, so she can probably do a lot of things most of us wouldn't dream of. But the jury is out on whether or not exercise is advisable for the average (non-professional athlete) mom-to-be. Some docs say those who are used to exercising can continue into early pregnancy; others are totally against it. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists advises: If you were a runner before you became pregnant, you often can keep running during pregnancy although you may have to modify your routine. Talk to your doctor about whether running during pregnancy is safe for you.

If you're pregnant and you've never been much of an exerciser, now is probably not the time to go hardcore -- but it is a great opportunity to start taking care of yourself. And here's a fun way to do it: take a look at the Fit & Fab 40 Weeks Calendar -- designed to ease you into building up your strength and pampering your body with fitness strategies, spa secrets, healthy eats, yoga tips and more.

We've become so accustomed to toy recalls these days, you'd think nothing would surprise us. Guess again.

Scientists found that the Chinese-made craft toy, called AquaDots in the U.S., contains a chemical that converts to the "date-rape drug" GHB when ingested. The toy has just been recalled.

According to the Consumer Product Safety Commission, children who swallow the beads can become comatose, develop respiratory depression, or have seizures. Two children in the U.S. and three children in Australia have been hospitalized after ingesting the toy parts.

We already know that TV is not recommended for children under two. But if that recommendation isn't good enough for you, here's something else to consider: new research indicates that tots under three who are watching TV might develop attention problems in the future. A study conducted by researchers at the University of Washington found that each hour of violent television viewed by both boys and girls under age three doubled their risk of attention problems five years later. And even non-violent shows, like Rugrats, might contribute to the problem.

The researchers also found that violent television viewing by boys during the preschool years can lead to aggressive, antisocial behavior when they reach school age. Girls, for some reason, aren't affected in the same way.

Some reports suggest that the under-three set is most affected because their brains are at such an important development stage. So what's a mom to do? If moderation is your goal, start by determining if your kids are watching too much TV. Set new guidelines for your family. Get the just-for-parents perspective with reviews and ratings for the television shows on the air today. Meet a mom who raised her kids in a TV-free home. Talk to other parents who are trying to limit their children's TV time. And take a look at 365 family activities that will capture your child's attention.

Yesterday, moms ruled at the ING New York City Marathon!

It was exhilirating to watch my fellow New Yorkers cheer as Paula Radcliffe of Great Britain crossed the finish line first -- just nine months after giving birth to her first child.

Paula, the world-record holder, also won the New York Marathon in 2004. Of the eight marathons she's entered, she's won seven. And last year, she trained throughout her entire pregnancy.

Twenty-three seconds after Paula crossed the finish line came Gete Wami of Ethiopia, mom of a 4-year-old, who had run alongside Paula from the beginning. With this silver-medal finish, Gete became the World Marathon Majors Champion.

While Paula and Gete were the gold and silver medalists, they weren't the only stars out there. Phenomenal women crossed the finish line all day long, and their stories make us all proud.

Good news! A new Census Bureau study indicates that parents are taking a more active role in their kids' lives than they did ten years ago. The study found that more kids have restrictions on what they watch on TV these days and more children are taking extra-curricular lessons. Is this true in your family?

I'm still not over the thrill of my little TV appearance, so I just had to share my favorite souvenir. Here's a shot of me, Kim Coles and Bill Rancic, the hosts of In The Loop with iVillage.

I've been a Kim fan since she starred on Living Single and I've been a Bill fan since season one of The Apprentice, so it was a joy to meet them and pretty fascinating to watch them do their jobs!

Yesterday, in keeping with the Halloween spirit, I did something scary.

I went on live TV -- to talk about Halloween! I've never done a TV appearance before, and I went armed with all sorts of factoids, stats and anecdotes about last-minute costumes and Halloween safety and trick-or-treat tips. In the end, I learned that I didn't have to worry so much about telling the audience everything, because the segment turned into a rollicking good time with the help of hilarious host Kim Coles and a few adorable kids.

Kim went out of her way to make me feel welcome and comfortable -- and to keep the audience roaring with laughter as we introduced princesses, pirates (and a few brave adults!) all decked out for the holiday. Take a look!

Halloween's a week away, and it's entirely probable that you've got costumes on the brain right now. Since the baby years are probably the only chance you'll get to exert total control over your child's choices, enjoy those cute costume options while you can. Once your kid has ideas of his own, you might have some negotiating to do.
What costume did you buy or make this year? (One out of every five moms makes a costume.) Did your child's costume choice make you cringe? Did you have to invoke a parental veto this Halloween?
If you did, you're not alone. We found that 51% of parents let their children choose their own costumes -- but the parents ultimately have the final say. Six out of 10 parents say there are costumes they wouldn't let their children wear. And only one parent in 10 would allow their daughter to dress up as Britney Spears or Paris Hilton. Let's all be grateful to the other nine...

Guest entry from Jennie Baird, Editor-in-Chief, iVillage.

"Imagine being destitute, orphaned and abandoned in a strange country at the age of seven and spending the next eight years of your life in foster care moving from home to home. When you’re finally adopted at age 15, what do you do?

On Thursday evening, I met a young Ethopian-born woman named Abazash, and this is her story. As a young adult adopted by an American family, she traveled back to Ethiopia and reconnected with a young cousin, a 12-year-old, HIV-positive orphan. The system in Ethiopia could provide nothing for this boy, with his age and HIV status two strikes against him.

Abezash made it her goal to find her cousin a home. She wound up renting a house and creating a home for her cousin and 17 other truly needy children. They live in a family-style environment in this home, attend school and receive medical care and support. The home is fully supported by the organization Abezash founded, Artists for Charity, which raises money primarily through the sale of artwork by its members. (In addition to supporting the home, Artists for Charity also conducts HIV/AIDS awareness and education programs.)